What to do when you feel Stuck in Life

Life is a journey. There are highs & lows, good & bad, happy & sad times. That’s the reality of Life.

But we got to realize that, it is during the Down moments is where Growth takes place. It is during the tough times that Character is built. Anybody can be happy and positive during the good times. But the real challenge is to grow and move forward when Life knocks you down.

And when life knocks us down, we get stuck in that moment not knowing what to do and emotions like fear, revenge, jealousy keep pulling us down into a spiral.

It does take courage and a lot of positivity to get ourselves out of the rut and in this article, I dwell on something that we can do to pull ourselves up and move on in Life.

Assess your Situation

Evaluate where you are. Assess yourself. What brought you here? What did you learn from it? Is there something you can change now that you couldn’t in the past?

As somebody said “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results”. Are you going through it or growing through it?

Assess your feelings for why you feel stuck – What emotion is weighing you down?

Forgive & Grow

We tend to carry our baggage/ mistakes from our past into our present. Clear your mind of unnecessary baggage.

Focus on what are you going to do now? Forgive your past as probably you did not know at that time if you could do those things better. Learn and grow from your mistakes. You can let the tragedy to destroy your life or grow from it. Declare an all-out war that you are going to get out of the rut.

Don’t stop, stay Busy

Don’t let challenges dictate terms to you. Push them aside and move towards your Goals. Don’t stop, stay busy, work on your plans. Continue to grow.

Help Somebody

Find somebody you can help. What you give is what you get. You will forget Helpyour sorrow and helplessness if you are able to help somebody and it will bring a feeling of pride and fullness.


Take time to meditate to clear your mind. Activate the thinker in you. Don’t allow your emotions to control you. Discipline your emotions and thoughts.

Take an example – Weeds don’t need any encouragement to grow. They just grow through the cracks on the ground. But Orchids & Roses need special processes for them to grow. Similarly you don’t need any motivation to be depressed or angry or jealous or hurt but need a lot of motivation to control those emotions and get over them.

Make a declaration

Make a declaration – that you are going to be stronger and better, stand up for your dreams. Go all out to have it. Say to yourself – I am going to do something about this situation

Expect things to get better. Your current situation is not here to stay but it will pass.

Envision your Future

We all go through life with the limited vision that we have or have been conditioned with. Realize and appreciate the fact that there is always a way out. Where there is a will, there is a way.

Take full responsibility for your life. Accept where you are and the responsibility that you will take yourself where you want to go. Say to yourself – “I got me here, I am getting myself out of this”.

Recreate yourself

Decide that you are going to change. Decide that you are going to stand up to Life. You are going to empower yourself. Say to yourself that these are temporary situations and I will evolve and grow. I will no longer be stuck in Life. I am in charge and will build a new me.

Go for walks, engage in reflective thinking, listen to upbeat music to recharge your batteries, read books, listen to tapes that help you motivate yourself.

Separate what you do from who you are. Things you did in the past cannot be changed. Look forward to grow by recreating yourself.

Describe your future self

Have a self-image of what you have always wanted to be. Write a description of the kind of person you want to be. What characteristics you would want to change from your current self? Study your past, examine what went wrong and how you can learn and grow? What are your assets, your strong points and envision your future self.

Look at your past and try to give positive interpretations to things/situations that led you to be stuck in life. You may feel what happened to you was bad, but you look at interpreting it differently that empowers you and you will definitely feel good. Believe in “Whatever happens, happens for the best”.

Find some trusted critics who tell u what you need to hear, not what you want to hear!

Get Unstuck and Grow

Love & Forgive yourself. Let go of the past so that u can grow to your potential thus leading a fulfilled life. Practice looking at the future with theLive your Life feeling that you have received today what you always wanted to achieve.

There will always be setbacks. This is the journey called Life. Know the fact that these are only temporary and how we evolve from those setbacks is our decision, choices that we make.

Live life on your terms, that you are aware, you know that things are going to get better.

Keep moving. Progress Fearlessly.










36 thoughts on “What to do when you feel Stuck in Life”

  1. Lots of great advice here!

    I was stuck a while ago, and it took a while to get un-stuck, so I wish that I had seen your post sooner.

    Forgiving myself has always been a challenge but I am working on it! I totally believe in the power of meditation as well.

    1. I am glad Irma that you liked the post. I firmly believe we have it in us whatever it needed to be successful. A little bit of soul searching and a lot of positivity makes things happens.

  2. Love this! Whenever I feel like I’m stuck or overwhelmed by too many tasks, I always take some time to meditate, works wonders for de-stressing and providing mental clarity. Staying busy is another good trick as well, thanks for sharing!

  3. Wow this is a very positive and encouraging post. I will bookmark for those days when i am just tired and beat. Thank you so much for giving me a perk me up talk. I need it. I agree with everything that you said as I also tend to be a positive person. Good luck!

  4. A very motivating article and I loved reading it all. This will really help anyone feeling down and give them that encouragement and drive. I think sometimes we can really beat ourselves up over past mistakes for example, so its a great message you have used.

  5. Sometimes you find just what you need when you need it! Thank you for this thought-provoking post. I have been so overwhelmed lately by life and its circumstances. I appreciate all of the tips because sometimes the obvious is so hard to see. I think I need to start reading and exercising again as well as just breathing properly 😉

  6. This is in an incredibly informative, motivating article.
    It is good to find bloggers who strive to deliver positive messages and help others the way you do.
    Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us and for your sincere words of encouragement.
    I will definitely keep coming for more.

  7. Such great tips, now if I can only follow them. I have found that meditation has helped me in the past. I think I need to start practicing again. As far as forgetting the past, that is sometimes so hard to follow and something that I really need to work on. Thank you so much for such a thought-provoking article.

  8. Hi Rudolph. Once again, a great post filled with valuable life-changing information. When we talk about forgiveness, most people assume we need to forgive those that have wronged us. While this is true, as you have pointed out, it is more important to forgive ourselves for our own perceived shortcomings. I look forward to reading more words of wisdom from you in the future.
    Kind regards

  9. Absolutely loved your article because it comes at a good time for me, in recent months I have made some drastic decisions to change things in my life that was not making me happy but I had began uccustommed to accepting.  Now I forgive and grow and help others. It’s very rewarding!

  10. I love your amazing article! In my relationship we have to do over again and over again then it works! This article still does help us lot so we won’t be stuck in life and never give up on your self. I love the way your said on meditate with example! Where did you get best example from? I would like you share this article to my email if you willing.

    Thank you for beautiful article

    1. Dear Shenai, thanks for your comment. I am glad you liked the article and it helps you in someway. Frankly, I believe that we all want to live a fulfilled life and we have the potential to do so. But we are so caught up in our daily chores that we fail to nourish our minds with positive thoughts and being grateful for what we have. We tend to focus more on what we don’t have! That’s where meditation helps to calm our mind and focus on our positives. All i can say is – see the best in everything and you will feel good. 

      Regarding the post, yes, I will email it to you. But do give me credit if you are reproducing this article on any other media 🙂 

  11. Good advice for the time when we are stuck in life. Sometimes… I meant always, I write all my feelings, all the things that are making me feel stuck, for several days. I read each day and write more, after five days I burn the paper or break it in many many pieces, instantly I feel better 🙂 When I am stuck I can’t meditate, after doing the “written therapy” I began to meditate again. Thank you for sharing 🙂

    1. Hi Maria, thanks for sharing your experience. This is a good method too where you are gifted to understand your feelings and write them down. Many a times, people stray the wrong way getting depressed and not able to express their feelings. Knowing what is happening inside you is very essential to get out of it. Thanks once again for sharing your experience as this will surely help the readers of this post. 

  12. Thanks for this piece. I’m going through a transitional phase as my place of employment will be shutting down at the end of the year. I’m going to go into uncharted waters (so to speak) going into business for myself starting early next year. I’m going to bookmark this piece and read it again in the near future as i do believe this is the mindset necessary for moving forward towards success.

    Blessings, Brad

    1. Dear Brad, thanks for your comments. Sorry to hear about your job. At the same time happy for you as you embark on a new journey, which may seem difficult initially (speaking from experience) but truly liberating as time goes by. I chose to listen to Les Brown during my difficult days. His words are full of encouragement and it will help you build your confidence. Wishing you all the very best.

      Regards, Rudolph

  13. What you say all sounds like good common sense advice.  I read the About Rudolph page and it indicates you have a business background. In future posts I would be interested to understand the underpinnings of your philosophy and advice.  What sort of philosophical, ethical or religious foundation do you have?  Can you recommend any readings or provide further info to understand your point of view?

    Thanks a lot for your advice.

    1. Thanks for your feedback and I appreciate you taking time to read about me as well. 

      I do have a business background and most of my posts come from my personal experience and situations that I have been through. I am undergoing a NLP certification course and it should be complete by March 2019. I am also looking to certify as a Life Coach in 2019 for which I will be taking up classes under guidance of certified Coach.

      I recommend listening to Les Brown, Tony Robins, Dean Graziosi and many such motivational speakers who definitely  have made it in the Life-Coaching & Self development niche. I also recommend listening or reading books from Bob Proctor, who is excellent with the understanding of Law of Attraction. Do write to me if I can be of help to you. 

  14. This is such a great piece! I definitely identify a lot of what you’re saying. I find it difficult to forgive myself and move on. I often find myself stuck wondering what if or what could I have done differently. 

    I have made a conscious choice to be more intentional with my thoughts and actions. I’m working on recreating myself and controlling my thoughts and making them a lot more positive. 

    I am a believer in God and I will hold onto faith that He will continue to help me through this journey call life even with all its ups and downs. 

    1. Dear Tekyia, thanks for your kind words. I am happy that you identify with what I am saying. I believe that whatever happens, happens for the best and the universe does have a reason for it to happen. Have faith and it will always work out best.

  15. Hi Rudolph, 

    Excellent concepts you have given us. 

    Many times I can do to make my business work better, I always looked for a way out. 

    As you explain we have very good moments and others not so much. 

    We learn when we are wrong, and when we make a mistake we look for the solution. 

    Sometimes they cost a lot of work on our part and sometimes not so much. 

    Life is exciting and it is worth living it to the fullest. 

    I loved your artícle. Thank you! Claudio

  16. Thanks for all these great tips. I definitely feel like in life there’s way more lows than highs, but I agree that it’s during the lows you can grow. Forgiving myself for past mistakes has always been a very difficult task for me, I sometimes do so successful for a short while, but then I go back to it later on and realize I still haven’t moved on. I’ll definitely try to start up a meditation routine, do you recommend meditating in silence or with some music on?

    1. Dear Kent, everything has a balance. You may be feeling low because you are associating this feeling with thoughts that make you feel low. Change the frequency of your thoughts, bring back happy memories and you will feel good as well. I understand it’s easier said than done. But it comes with practise. Regarding your question on meditation, I prefer silence or somewhere close to nature where you can hear the birds or the ocean sounds. Music is good as long as you are able to focus on your thoughts and not the background music. 

  17. Great, actionable article on what to do when you get stuck in life!

    Life really can be a rollercoaster at times, and there will inevitably be occasions when we feel a bit stuck, so it is good to have something actionable to get us moving forward again.

    Your first tip of self awareness is probably the most important and deciding to do something to get out of it.

    I feel that we often just go through the motions without realising it, and it is very important to stop and self-reflect a little bit.

    One thing I like to do is meditate and go for a long walk, this always makes me feel a lot better, then I can concentrate on moving forward again!

    Great post, very helpful 🙂


    1. Thanks John. I am glad you liked it. Meditation is like giving oxygen to your thoughts and feelings. It nurtures your mind and makes it feel fresh to have great new thoughts. Keep doing it and stay positive 🙂

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