Life is a journey. There are highs & lows, good & bad, happy & sad times. That’s the reality of Life.
But we got to realize that, it is during the Down moments is where Growth takes place. It is during the tough times that Character is built. Anybody can be happy and positive during the good times. But the real challenge is to grow and move forward when Life knocks you down.
And when life knocks us down, we get stuck in that moment not knowing what to do and emotions like fear, revenge, jealousy keep pulling us down into a spiral.
It does take courage and a lot of positivity to get ourselves out of the rut and in this article, I dwell on something that we can do to pull ourselves up and move on in Life.
Assess your Situation
Evaluate where you are. Assess yourself. What brought you here? What did you learn from it? Is there something you can change now that you couldn’t in the past?
As somebody said “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results”. Are you going through it or growing through it?
Assess your feelings for why you feel stuck – What emotion is weighing you down?
Forgive & Grow
We tend to carry our baggage/ mistakes from our past into our present. Clear your mind of unnecessary baggage.
Focus on what are you going to do now? Forgive your past as probably you did not know at that time if you could do those things better. Learn and grow from your mistakes. You can let the tragedy to destroy your life or grow from it. Declare an all-out war that you are going to get out of the rut.
Don’t stop, stay Busy
Don’t let challenges dictate terms to you. Push them aside and move towards your Goals. Don’t stop, stay busy, work on your plans. Continue to grow.
Find somebody you can help. What you give is what you get. You will forget your sorrow and helplessness if you are able to help somebody and it will bring a feeling of pride and fullness.
Take time to meditate to clear your mind. Activate the thinker in you. Don’t allow your emotions to control you. Discipline your emotions and thoughts.
Take an example – Weeds don’t need any encouragement to grow. They just grow through the cracks on the ground. But Orchids & Roses need special processes for them to grow. Similarly you don’t need any motivation to be depressed or angry or jealous or hurt but need a lot of motivation to control those emotions and get over them.
Make a declaration
Make a declaration – that you are going to be stronger and better, stand up for your dreams. Go all out to have it. Say to yourself – I am going to do something about this situation
Expect things to get better. Your current situation is not here to stay but it will pass.
Envision your Future
We all go through life with the limited vision that we have or have been conditioned with. Realize and appreciate the fact that there is always a way out. Where there is a will, there is a way.
Take full responsibility for your life. Accept where you are and the responsibility that you will take yourself where you want to go. Say to yourself – “I got me here, I am getting myself out of this”.
Decide that you are going to change. Decide that you are going to stand up to Life. You are going to empower yourself. Say to yourself that these are temporary situations and I will evolve and grow. I will no longer be stuck in Life. I am in charge and will build a new me.
Go for walks, engage in reflective thinking, listen to upbeat music to recharge your batteries, read books, listen to tapes that help you motivate yourself.
Separate what you do from who you are. Things you did in the past cannot be changed. Look forward to grow by recreating yourself.
Describe your future self
Have a self-image of what you have always wanted to be. Write a description of the kind of person you want to be. What characteristics you would want to change from your current self? Study your past, examine what went wrong and how you can learn and grow? What are your assets, your strong points and envision your future self.
Look at your past and try to give positive interpretations to things/situations that led you to be stuck in life. You may feel what happened to you was bad, but you look at interpreting it differently that empowers you and you will definitely feel good. Believe in “Whatever happens, happens for the best”.
Find some trusted critics who tell u what you need to hear, not what you want to hear!
Get Unstuck and Grow
Love & Forgive yourself. Let go of the past so that u can grow to your potential thus leading a fulfilled life. Practice looking at the future with the feeling that you have received today what you always wanted to achieve.
There will always be setbacks. This is the journey called Life. Know the fact that these are only temporary and how we evolve from those setbacks is our decision, choices that we make.
Live life on your terms, that you are aware, you know that things are going to get better.
Keep moving. Progress Fearlessly.